Nasty Knock-Backs
I was watching a TV show today where a guy approached a pretty woman at the bar and tried to chat her up. He wasn’t much to look at but he had plenty of confidence.
The girl treated him like he was something she’d stepped in. And it reminded me of times I’d seen something similar happen in pubs and clubs.
One time it was a new friend of mine who did it. She was gorgeous, and the guys were buzzing like flies. One rather cocky young guy was persistant, and she seemed to be interested. Then she turned on him and made some scaithing comment that sent him away, dazed, with his tail between his legs.
I was horrified and asked her what she’d done that for. She said, ‘You can’t let guys stake their territory or you’ll be stuck with them all night.’
‘OK, so you didn’t like him. Why did you have to be so nasty about it?’ I asked, as confused as the guy who had just left.
‘Because it’s quick and they get the message.’
Needless to say, I stopped the friendship. I don’t have time for people who are thoughtlessly cruel. Not only do they hurt people, but women who do this give the rest of us a bad name and make it even harder for guys to come up and talk to us.
So please, don’t give up on women just because you may have experienced one or more of these nasty knock-backs. There are jerks on both sides of the sexual divide.
Maybe you should take a leaf from our book. We make guys prove to us they aren’t jerks before we take them seriously. And so, reserve judgement until the woman shows you she’s a nice person. If she shows you she’s a jerk by using a nasty knock-back, to you or someone else, see her for what she is and walk away. Don’t take it personally.
And if you are getting a lot of these kind of knock-backs maybe you need to reconsider the type of woman you are attracted to, or the way you approach them. Maybe you’re trying to hard, or you’re role modelling jerks. Girls consider themselves well within their rights to act like a jerk if I guy is behaving like a jerk.